I…don’t?
June 13, 2008
Is it just me, or is everyone getting married this summer? I’ve received three invitations, I expect three or four more, at least three people from my home ward already are or will be getting married soon, my brother’s going to a wedding tomorrow for people from his singles ward, and I know a couple more friends who are engaged but who haven’t set a date. And I work at Hallmark, so I’ve seen how many people come in buying wedding cards and wedding presents. Trust me.
I imagine the same number of people have been getting married all along, but it stands out in particular to me this summer. ::shrug:: Maybe I’m just getting to that marriageable age so I have friends who are all that marriageable age, and it’s on my mind so I notice it more, etc. etc. But still. Everyone’s having a party except me, and just for partying’s sake I feel a little left out. Not to say I’m desperate for a mate. I’m still planning to leave on a mission this fall, and a husband would certainly make that a little difficult. I guess I’m worried that when I get back, all my single friends will be married. And as fun as married people are, I’ll have to go out and make new single friends, and that’s always hard to do. This last year was so easy, because I had three roommates who came ready-made to be awesome friends, and two of them had brothers who came ready-made to be awesome friends, and one had a boyfriend who…you get the picture, so it was like a ready-made package of awesome friends for the price of rent. But they’ll all be married and/or graduated by the time I get back to BYU. And that’ll be weird.
And I have a question to ask the universe. I used to wonder why these pretty but ditzy girls got all the dates and I didn’t. And people would always tell me that I was the kind of girl that guys would want to marry, so when guys were ready to get married they’d ask me out, whereas right now they just wanted to date to have fun. Okay, I guess I have a question and a comment. Question: If that is really the case, then how come the ditzy girls are getting married before me? (And just to clarify: not all the girls getting married this summer are ditzy). And comment: That’s stupid. Did it ever occur to guys that us “marriageable” girls just wanted to date for fun too?
I don’t think I’m bitter. And I’m not looking for a date. Or a husband. I guess it’s just something I’ve been thinking about.
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1. missnyc08 | June 13, 2008 at 7:44 pm
I just put an invite out for a cocktail party…and had to add a PS of “RSVPing no due to a wedding is illegit” — there is something about this summer, crazy, right?
In answer to your question, and this may sound lame — there are a lot of guys out there that like simple girls that won’t really question or spew intellect. It’s lame. The challenge is finding the guys cool enough to want the chick that’s brains rather than vacuous.
2. nkartist06 | June 14, 2008 at 9:55 am
At the end of the summer my Brother is getting married. He is six and a half years older then me, the youngest of my siblings. It seems to set a map of where I would want to be in the future. Born the into a family that had three daughters and on son in it gave me a varied view of the world. Twists came one at a time as the years went on.
I think the answer to your question is summed up to the fact that people look for the easiest course of action. An intellectual partner makes for debating and long drawn out conversations (neither good nor bad) As it seems intellectual is frightening, I find myself in the role of the guy to take home to mother, yet I have never been taken to a single one.
I have had one actual relationship and it fell that the real me was shadowed by chance encounters. I was able to build and portray a persona. This in turn led me to have to hold onto something that I was not to keep the relationship afloat. By the end I was too attached and I had lost my safety net of friends and loved ones.
Do to the horrific fact that the majority of marriages today in the US end in divorce; I think that dwelling in why everyone is getting married when you are not may led to a failed marriage as well. To set yourself to others mild stones and standards only sets you up for a fall, and forces you into a mindset where the easy way out is the best way.
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